Finding Freedom: How to Stop Letting Emotions Control You
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Chapter 1: A Personal Experience
Yesterday, I decided to take a swim at a local public pool I often pass by. Having been on the swim team during high school, I still find joy in swimming as a form of exercise. After walking a mile and a half under the hot sun, I was disappointed to learn that I had arrived at the wrong time due to a schedule conflict between free swim and practice. The lifeguard explained the situation kindly, and despite my frustration, I expressed gratitude.
Here I was, feeling furious because I had made the effort to get there, only to be turned away. Why couldn't the pool hours be made available online? It seems reasonable, especially in 2022. In that moment, I started to blame Hawaii and its outdated ways. This reaction isn't new for me; when things go awry, I often project my frustrations onto others or the environment.
Once I calmed down and reflected, I acknowledged that the situation wasn't entirely their fault, although the website issue could be resolved easily. My anger stemmed from personal dissatisfaction with my life, and the inability to swim was merely a trigger for deeper feelings of inadequacy. The incident reinforced negative beliefs about myself, making me feel like a failure.
This brings us to the nature of anger. It’s common to feel offended or upset by various interactions or events throughout the day. However, if we take a moment to investigate the root of our anger, we can begin to process it more effectively.
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Section 1.1: Reflecting on Anger
When the anger subsides, I find it helpful to ask myself some fundamental questions:
- What triggered my anger?
- Why did their words upset me?
- What alternatives were there?
- Is the blame solely theirs, or do I share some responsibility?
- Am I avoiding confronting a deeper issue?
Let me clarify: I am not suggesting we should constantly blame ourselves for every misfortune. What I advocate for is the importance of self-awareness and accountability. If we consistently attribute blame to others or external situations, we remain trapped in a cycle of denial. It’s easy to view ourselves as innocent when, in truth, we all make mistakes.
By cultivating awareness of our thoughts and actions, we can live more authentically. When we blame external factors, we relinquish our power and become subservient to our emotions. Taking a moment to reflect instead of reacting impulsively can provide clarity.
Subsection 1.1.1: The Path to Understanding
Section 1.2: The Benefits of Self-Reflection
So, the next time you find yourself feeling angry or upset, take a moment to reflect after you've calmed down. Question your reactions and explore the reasons behind your feelings. It might be challenging to confront these truths initially, but the liberation and peace of mind that come from this understanding can significantly enhance your life.
Who wants to live in a state of perpetual anger and frustration? I certainly don’t, which is why I strive to release my anger, and you can too.
Chapter 2: Additional Insights
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