Chapter 1: The Power of Solution-Oriented Thinking

When faced with a challenge, how do you choose to respond?

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Before delving into this mindset strategy, it’s essential to clarify that I am referring to everyday challenges. There will always be exceptional situations where solutions are not readily available, and some problems may require personal intervention. However, for the majority of scenarios, the insights I’m about to share can be incredibly beneficial.

I want to encourage a different perspective, moving away from merely highlighting problems. This approach is applicable in your personal life, at work, or within your own business. Cultivating a mindset that prioritizes solutions can lead to significant success.

Imagine a typical workplace situation. A problem arises—regardless of its nature—you inform your colleagues or supervisor about it, and that’s where it ends. You become identified solely as the messenger of a problem. Some may take on the issue alongside you, while others may deflect it back to you. Ultimately, you remain just the person who pointed out the problem.

Now, consider an alternative approach. The same issue exists, but you’ve consciously chosen to adopt a solution-driven mindset. You might still need to inform others about the problem, but this time, you are also presenting potential solutions. For instance, you could say, "Hey Boss, the XYZ machine isn't functioning properly. I've reviewed the manual but found no clear solution. I have the maintenance number; would you like me to reach out and arrange for someone to assess it?"

This mindset can be applied across various aspects of your life. Acknowledge the issue, then shift your focus to finding a resolution. It may require some mental adjustment, but continuously reminding yourself of this mantra can be transformative: I choose to prioritize solutions over problems.

Did you ever notice that when you fixate on a problem—especially when you exaggerate its significance—you often end up with even more complications? This phenomenon illustrates the law of attraction in practice. Direct your attention towards what you desire—in this case, solutions—and move forward with confidence.

Find out more about effectively applying the law of attraction in your life in the video below.

Chapter 2: Delegating and Empowering Others

When someone approaches you with a problem, it’s crucial to make a quick decision: Is this an issue that only I can resolve? If the answer is yes, then take it on. If not, return it to them. If others can handle it without your assistance, confidently pass it back. You might say, “I understand; please let me know once it’s resolved. I trust you and your team to manage this.”

Be straightforward and assertive, stating, “I’m returning this problem to you. I believe you have the skills to resolve it. If you need to consult with me, that’s fine, but I expect you to handle it.” This empowers others and encourages them to adopt a solution-focused mindset. It also signals that you prefer not to be the go-to person for problems, freeing up mental space for yourself.

Of course, I’m not suggesting that if a friend confides in you about a personal issue, you respond with, “Handle it yourself!” Instead, consider whether they need your help to solve the problem or simply need someone to listen.

As a parent, I often fell into the trap of thinking I had to fix all my child's issues. Each time I intervened, I unintentionally conveyed that he wasn’t capable of managing on his own. Alternatively, he sometimes found my help intrusive when he merely wanted support and understanding.

Let me share two recent experiences with my mother, who is in her late 70s and lives independently.

Event 1: When her car insurance was due for renewal, I knew she expected me to handle it, believing she couldn’t navigate online services (although she can). I encouraged her to take charge and suggested she call to inquire about the best rates. She did so, secured a much better deal, and felt accomplished. THIS WAS NOT MY PROBLEM.

Event 2: One night, my mother called, distressed because her smoke and carbon monoxide alarms were going off. I immediately recognized this as a problem that warranted my involvement. She assured me there was no fire, so I instructed her to open all windows and not to touch any switches. I quickly contacted the emergency services to explain the situation, then drove the short distance to her home, knowing she was apprehensive about the dark. Fortunately, everything was alright; the alarms were triggered by fumes from her new oven.

This incident was worth the intervention. While my mother is quite self-sufficient, it’s essential for her to know she has my support.

I hope today’s mindset discussion has inspired you to reflect on how you approach problems in your own life. The next time you encounter a challenge, I hope my insights will resonate with you and perhaps make your life a bit easier while empowering someone else in the process.

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