Embrace Your True Self: It's Time to Stop the Negative Narratives
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Chapter 1: The Reality of Your Worth
It’s crucial to acknowledge that you are enough just as you are. You don’t need to chase perfection. Deep down, there’s a part of you that understands this truth, even if it’s just a faint whisper. That voice is the one to listen to. Conversely, another voice may insist that you must be flawless, which is simply falsehood.
Over the years, I’ve found it all too easy to believe the negative narratives instead of the uplifting truths. I’m ready to break free from that cycle of self-doubt. Are you also tired of the incessant self-criticism? If so, keep reading.
Section 1.1: Origins of the Inner Critic
Many people, including myself, have developed a harsh inner voice stemming from childhood experiences. For me, it was the constant disappointment expressed by my parents when I didn’t meet their expectations. They focused solely on outcomes without recognizing my efforts, leading me to believe my self-worth hinged on external approval.
As I grew older, I continued to nourish this inner critic, never questioning its narrative. No one was there to guide me toward a kinder self-perception. This self-critical voice became a relentless force, overshadowing any praise I received from others.
Subsection 1.1.1: The Messages We Internalize
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The stories I’ve believed about myself are numerous and often damaging. Some of these include the notions that I am incapable of finding happiness, that I must have done something wrong if someone dislikes me, and that I am a victim of my circumstances. What false narratives have you accepted about yourself?
Section 1.2: Cultivating a Supportive Inner Voice
To counteract my self-criticism, I’ve begun nurturing a loving inner voice. This inner dialogue consists of two distinct perspectives: the critical voice, which I’ve named “little Arty,” and the compassionate voice of my loving parent.
This nurturing voice exists to comfort and reassure little Arty that he is deserving of love and acceptance. Engaging with this supportive voice has significantly transformed my outlook.
Chapter 2: Engaging with the Loving Parent
To connect with your inner loving parent, consider journaling conversations between this nurturing figure and your inner child. This could be a simple meditation where you visualize receiving love and encouragement from a supportive presence, be it a parent or a cherished friend.
A Sample Dialogue with Your Loving Parent
While I won’t delve into the specifics of my inner child's experiences, the essential takeaway is that reaching out to this nurturing voice has a profound impact. Recently, after experiencing hurt from a dismissive response to a kind gesture, I chose to engage with my loving parent instead of succumbing to self-criticism.
I documented our conversation, where my loving parent reminded me to practice self-compassion. They emphasized that feeling hurt was valid and not something I should criticize myself for. Ultimately, my loving parent reassured me that the dismissive comment was a reflection of the other person’s struggles and not a reflection of my worth.
The transformative power of this dialogue is undeniable. In just a few minutes, I shifted from self-doubt to self-acceptance.
My Wish for You
Whenever negative thoughts arise, I encourage you to seek out your inner loving voice. It can come from various sources—whether it’s a spiritual figure, a nurturing parent, or even a close friend. If you struggle to find this supportive voice, consider seeking therapy, where a caring professional can help you internalize this positive perspective.
Remember, the harsh critic within you is a liar. Your inner loving parent knows the truth: you are beautiful and deserving of love just as you are.
To conclude, I share what’s known as the Beautiful Prayer, which encapsulates the essence of this message:
Help me to believe the truth about myself No matter how beautiful it is
A special thanks to The Sober Vegan Yogi for her inspiring article on overcoming childhood trauma through writing.