Embracing the Journey: Why Getting Lost in Your 20s is Okay
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Chapter 1: A Message to My Younger Self
Dear 20-Year-Olds,
Feeling "lost" during your 20s is completely normal. In fact, it might be one of the best experiences you can have. My own journey through this decade has been anything but straightforward. I've lived in three different countries, moved across six cities, held three jobs, navigated three relationships, endured six heartbreaks, battled depression, faced the challenges of a pandemic, enjoyed a mini-retirement at 26, and returned to school at 27. With two years still left in my twenties, I can confidently say that the last two years have been the happiest of my life, largely because I embraced the feeling of being lost.
Chapter 2: The Confusion of Adulthood
Now at 28, I reflect on my tumultuous twenties. This period has included everything from graduating college to my first job, managing finances, experiencing love and heartbreak, and moving to new cities where I didn’t speak the language. I've also discovered my passion for art and pursued a Master’s degree. My twenties have truly been a rollercoaster ride.
Entering adulthood, I felt a mixture of confidence and naivety. I had always relied on the safety nets provided by my parents and education. However, upon stepping into the real world, I found myself unprepared for what lay ahead. This journey is common among those in their 20s.
Video Description: A reflective piece on feeling lost in your twenties, exploring the emotional and practical implications of this phase of life.
Chapter 3: The Value of Getting Lost
It's easy to feel disoriented in your 20s. If you often find yourself asking, "What am I doing with my life?" consider it a sign that you are successfully navigating this confusing phase. Getting lost can actually be advantageous.
Life is essentially one large experiment, where the unknowns far outnumber the certainties. This is the time to chase that wild dream you had as a child, to put your heart out there, and to spend on experiences rather than material things. It's okay to make mistakes because you truly have nothing to lose.
Even if you don’t achieve your initial goals, you will end up in places you never expected. You'll learn about the world, its inhabitants, and, most importantly, yourself.
Video Description: An honest discussion about feeling like you missed out on life during your 20s, including reflections on regret and growth.
Chapter 4: The Journey of Self-Discovery
One of the greatest lessons I learned in my 20s is the importance of self-awareness. I’ve grown comfortable in my own skin and have developed a deeper understanding of my interests, values, strengths, and weaknesses. I no longer try to change my flaws; instead, I've embraced them, realizing that my strengths far outweigh my weaknesses.
This decade is the perfect opportunity to lose yourself in life’s experiences because in doing so, you will eventually find yourself.
Mistakes are inevitable, but they can lead you to unexpected treasures. I found my own "gold" through this process—I found me. So, I encourage you to embrace the chaos of your 20s. You’ll be just fine.